Caught in the act

"I'm never drinking again."

Famous last words right?

I met a good friend out for happy hour on Friday night. I felt giddy because I'd spent the better part of the day emailing back and forth with this guy I work with on some projects. He's so great ... though he lives and works out of CHICAGO. But that's another story. Let's just say that Friday was a very long night.

So it all started with me sitting at the bar, sipping my Johnny Walker black, waiting for my friend Kay... when I look over and see Jay, one of my best friends, walk in. I wave and call out to him before I realize he is out with a woman who is NOT his fiancee. Oooooppps.

He rushed over to me with a big hug and a very nervous... "this is a working meeting" ... explanation for the reason why he was having drinks with a very leggy, very blond, very busty lady.

Then he asked me what I was doing there and who I was meeting.

That's when my friend Kay strolled in. Of course, Kay assumed Jay was having a drink with me. So she gives him a big hello and starts asking about the wedding plans and where is his future wife -- when he abruptly excuses himself to join the mystery blond.

"Wh.... where'd he go?"

"He had to run to his working dinner," I said.

"Oh. You know, I've noticed that more and more people are having meetings over dinner or drinks. Who's he meeting with?"

I tilt my head and nod over to the cozy corner table where he is seated across from the blond.

"Oooohhhhhhh. That doesn't look like a working meeting."

"I don't think so," I said and left it at that.

That was on Friday night. I haven't spoken or emailed Jay since -- which is uncharacteristic.

This is awful... so awkward. I've known him for almost seven years. I'm definitely better friends with him than with his fiancee -- though I adore her and she worships him.

I want to smack him upside the head.

So now what do I do? If anything? Should I call him and ask him what the hell he's doing? Should I let it go and act like nothing happened? Should I wait and see what he does or says?

Comments

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[soma]

just got to read your blog,it was more like accidental,i murf a lot n thanx to that habit of mine i got to come across such an interesting yet simple,full of life blog.keep writing...

[DrinkJack]

Tough one ... good advice above, so I won't go there. Instead, I will point out what you really should have done. You should have walked over to their table and snapped a photo for future black mail opportunities.

[teahouseblossom]

Yeah, that is awkward.

I'd probably be a coward and say nothing. I mean, you're friends with him, right? If I were friends with the fiancee, it would be a no-brainer - I'd tell her. But if you don't know her so well, your only options are really to talk to him or keep your mouth shut.

[Leah]

If he's doing what you think he's doing, he shouldn't be getting married anytime soon. I'd say bring it up casually and see if he fesses. Sometimes people in that type of situation just need to be called out before they can do the hard work of either dumping the girlfriend or dumping the fiancee. Ugh.

[marshmallow]

hmm. this is difficult. i am inclined to give him the benefit of doubt, but if the curiosity is eating you alive...well, if it were me, i'd call him and make a big joke about how he had a 'date' with a busty blonde, just to wind him up - i don't see him owning up to cheating even if he was.

[girl]

My 20 cents? Call him and ask what was going on. Tell him exactly what you said here--that you adore his fiancee and that you feel sick about suspecting him, but that he was acting guilty and that it made you suspicious. He's your friend, and you have the right (some might say the responsibility) to ask him what is going on.

Don't threaten...just ask. It isn't about deciding beforehand what you'll do if his answer reflects less-than-honorable behavior. Assume he is going to reassure you that all is okay. If you don't feel reassured, then start thinking more.

Like I said, more than 20 cents, but...wow. I hate situations like that.